I started a recent interpersonal communication training in which I asked, "If you learn something in this session to help avoid the argument at home, are you interested?"
Everyone sat straight and leaned forward.
I took note of them and then asked the following questions:
"How many students did you study with arithmetic at school?" All their hands went up.
"How Many Have You Learned in Interpersonal Communication at School?" No hands up.
"Can not you find this peculiar thing?" I mean, Interpersonal Communication is the basis of human interaction and we have not taught it. But it was taught to arithmetic. "So I thought they believed they were teaching home communication, which was a shout in my case, and then I had to learn."
It sounds strange, but it's just the opposite.
Most of us have not spent the targeted time on how to communicate. We tend to assume that our communication styles and habits are natural. However, the fact that we got them when we were in the formative stage.
We practice these communication habits and styles for so long that they only look like the second nature. Whether they are effective styles and habits, or not so effective, they have become personal default positions. The most common bad communication habits here are the many exercises we have done.
Since we did not teach how to listen, we usually do mediocre work. Listening to me, I think we are really listening – we are strictly watching the other person and we will not let them think. This laser-sharp focus requires a lot more energy than our usual superficial hearing and it is much more difficult to maintain.
Have you ever met in a conversation and while the other person is still talking,? This applies to most of us. When we composed, he stopped listening. So, not only is this disrespectful, there may be something missing in the conversation.
Even worse, sometimes what we're making is actually slipping. It interrupts. This is actually an attempt to create a short cut for conversation, but it dramatically worsens the conversation, resulting in frustration and actually takes more time to re-create the conversation.
it sabotages our communication in a number of tiny ways. Sometimes we hear the first part of something and quickly come to the conclusion. Or identifying one of the features, you can generalize the more. Anything can be internalized so that the personal aspect of the conversation can be removed from the speaker. Or maybe the "right" need overrides the purpose of the quality node.
The most damaging effect for me is when her mouth moves faster than my mind. Most often, this makes a mistake, which is difficult to regain. The problem is that we are moving too fast. Reduce fishing gear, slow down, make consciousness and weigh our communication. And although I know this, I teach and practice personally, I still make mistakes.
Identifying Current Behavior
Commitment to Your Favorite Behavior
Practice, Practice, Practice
It is to be noted, however, with conscious attention, its default position continues to have an opposite effect. It will make a decisive effort in many years to change. But incremental improvement can reduce workplace and home conflicts.
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