Good communication means the backbone of all good relationships. In a family, a healthy interaction provides a framework for love and intimacy. Each family member learns (and accepts) respect and acceptance. Thus communication enables families to become stronger as a group and individuals.
At least that's how it works. But often, solid communication skills go out the window when your child unusually disobeys you. Have you heard brothers in the middle of the argument? (Or maybe you were with these brothers?) Then you know it is NOT an environment where love and acceptance bloom. At this time, emotions like this and anger take over. Parents and children often say and do things that are later regretted. Harmful feelings and lack of trust can occur when a family does not use good communication skills during a conflict.
The fact is not so difficult to associate loved ones with love if everything goes well. The family is a real test of how they communicate when things get tense. Parents play a fundamental role in teaching children how to deal with people when they are upset and angry. Parents should teach some communication skills to their children to be angry without hurting others. One of the most important elements of teaching children is:
- Does not mean loud to hear it. In fact, the opposite is true. If you shout with someone else, that person tune in. Often we are guilty of forgetting these parents and shouting at our kids to "listen to them". Instead, the model must be strict and credible without lifting our voices. (Practical but can be done!)
- Love and respect are more important than victory. One thing is vital to remember here: personal attacks are the most damaging and the hardest to undo. If you object to someone's views, intelligence, personality, or other parts, then lines that are not to be crossed are quickly overcome. Personal attacks in the middle of the argument can leave emotional scars that will never heal.
- Let the kids know what the boundaries are. The limits include personal attacks, as in the previous paragraph. But they include the expression of hate to each other, and they say things that are not true, just to create a point. Perhaps the most important limit: no physical violence! Physical violence can accelerate in seconds, with catastrophic consequences. It should not be allowed.
- Forgiveness is immediate and absolute. In the arguments in general, both parties have the reason to ask for forgiveness. When the argument is over, time to rejoin. One of the novel ways to get back together is to ask everyone concerned to apologize as part of the conflict. Do not let the disagreements go away. Life is too short to take time to hurt feelings.
Two ultimate thoughts are important to remember. No family knew these skills overnight. There will be failures and failures along the way. But children who communicate well during the conflict will develop a deeper, more satisfying relationship with the people they love.
Parents have two important roles in helping kids learn these skills. First of all, parents are taught to remember their children, even during the conflict, with respectful communication. Secondly, parents have to model these principles in their own communication. When the parents do not meet the norms of our doctrine, we must quickly acknowledge the failures and apologize. The kids really follow our actions as they follow the words.
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